Everyone wants the quick fix. The easy answer. The gold plated guarantee that if you do something in this manner then everything turns out ok.
Just do ‘this‘ and problem X will disappear.
Just stop doing X and problem Y goes away.
Just twirl around 3 x counter clockwise in red underpants and you will be fine and safe and happy all day.
It seems simple and easy and it’s blasted from headlines in a multitude of varying applications. You see it in regards to relationships, work, sleep, sex, parenting and health.
Everyone wants the simple, single dimension solution to the current problem that’s on trend. Sometimes you are being offered solutions to things that aren’t even problems!
But just like the werewolves the silver bullets were meant to kill with one shot, there’s no such thing as a simple fix. In some cases there actually is no problem to fix at all, let alone a solution required.
It’s lazy. And in the long term, more problematic.You cannot control the external, the only thing you have control over is your own behaviors and responses. You only have control of the intrinsic.
I could give you heaps of examples, but let’s look at parenting and health as I don’t have unlimited space.
‘My child only misbehaves because of this food item or this lack of food item or because of this external stimuli.’
So, at all costs (note the word ‘costs’) that external factor is avoided. But what are you teaching your child? That as an adult he’ll be able to explain his poor behaviour at work away by telling his boss he ate red frogs? Or more seriously, he will think his behavour is ok because he has been drinking? So fighting, violence, obnoxious or criminal behaviour will be explained because it has been caused by an external factor rather than intrinsically?
It gives the child an excuse for lack of self control or management of self throughout their lives. Is it not better to develop your child’s behavior management, recognition of limits and self control?
I will admit that it’s harder than not buying something at the store, which is the lack of appeal. But it only takes management of self on the parents part. And the ability to play the long game. Which is not quick or simple but has definite wins along the way if you can commit.
Sure. Each child is different and needs slightly different tools. I have one child that demands independence in all things. And the other? Not so much.
When it comes to health and the absolute arsenal of apparent silver bullets out there, it’s a similar premise.
‘This food or nutrient, prepared this way, will cure XYZ’.
‘This food or nutrient or element causes ABC so avoid it at all costs.’
This is a misconception about basic science that many, many people commit. In a single, basic level experiment, in mice or an agar plate, or in a single, limited study, not yet replicated, a particular chemical (remember people, all things are chemicals) caused a response. But you cannot extrapolate basic science out into the complexity of the human organism, which has negative and positive feedback loops, fails safes, fail proofs, an overwhelming drive to maintain homeostasis at all costs and mechanisms at play that you do not get at the laboratory/preliminary/basic science level. It is the biggest danger with the media reporting science – they’re often reporting from 1 study, they report without a science background and they have no time or opportunity to discuss it at length – it is a 30 sec bit piece aimed at the lowest common denominator.
When you try to look at sources for correlation you often find no evidence at all, or very shitty science at the best. Perhaps it may border on the edge of accepted science but I warn you this:
When the technology of radiation was discovered and it was on trend, people took radiation pills and radium baths to improve their health!
History of Radiation quackery
What I’m saying is – Don’t fall for the snake oil.
This article here sums up my point quite well. Eat Clean and hype
Now, to all the people who cry ‘But food is my medicine!’ (Mine is too – coffee, wine, soft cheese and corn cobs all bring me joy) I say this-
‘Sure thing. I agree 100%. But it can’t be ALL. ‘
Nursing has been caring for people in a holistic manner for decades and by holistic I mean:
characterized by the belief that the parts of something are intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole.
characterized by the treatment of the whole person, taking into account mental and social factors, rather than just the symptoms of a disease.
This means that when people have a health issue, we teach and discuss and implement lifestyle changes – non ‘medicine-based’ ( by this I mean pharmaceutical/ prescriptions) implementations to improve long term outcomes.
This was in complement to the interventions performed by the doctor.
Not instead of.
We now live longer than ever. And we demand MORE from our lives than ever. But we aren’t willing to put the effort in. We want the quick fix, the easy way out, commitment only to a Facebook status update.
By all means, eat well, exercise more, for the love of whatever inner faith you follow, be kinder to people, clean your house of clutter, avoid known toxins.
But do it with the long game in mind, with a rational mind that practices critical thinking and looking first to what intrinsic factors you can change, develop or manifest. Ensure that you are looking holistically and intrinsically. Not all problems are caused by external factors!